Does your mind wander? Are you distracted easily? Are you struggling to get more out of your efforts? Sometimes it feels like we’re just not able to stay on course. We’ve set goals and charted plans. We have everything lined up. We’ve even started. Yet, despite our good intentions, we seem to drift off course. What’s going on and how can we work with this frustration and inefficiency?
To be focused costs very little. To be UN-Focused is expensive.
Unfocused efforts result in wastage. Here are some costs to unfocused efforts:
- Time consuming. When we are unfocused, we often have to repeat efforts over and over again because we weren’t paying attention the first time.
- Exhausting. The repetition of effort consumes units of energy and will power. Mental fatigue sets in and this can spawn even more unfocused effort.
- Expensive. When we are unfocused, we often make errors. Resources are wasted and new resources are purchased to fix the errors.
- Rude. When communicating with other people, our unfocused efforts to listen are interpreted as rude or offensive. At the very least your partner will sense your lack of interest in the conversation.
It’s efficient to be focused all the time. And yet, to simply “be focused”….is easier said than done.
When something is interesting, focus is easy. So really, all you have to do is… find something interesting about your chosen task.
We are not robots.
Is it realistic to expect that we are focused all the time? We are NOT robots. A machine can run constantly and predictably. With occasional scheduled maintenance, a machine is very efficient.
Humans are hardwired to sense a situation and notice changes in its pattern… aka distractions. If we have an underlying insecurity, we will be attuned to possible threats. Bumps in the night will be very noticeable. We will jump at all distractions – big or small. Those shiny objects seem more important… Are they a threat or an opportunity? Better check it out.
Humans are better at…
As a human, and not as a robot, our value is our ability to sense other humans and relate to them. We can offer comfort, care and kindness to our loved ones – especially if distracted by their calls. Caring is inefficient when it distracts us from the contracted task at hand. Yet attending to these legit distractions is very efficient in the long run. We build trust and we build relationships. We enjoy companionship through this human interaction.
There’s no point in fighting it.
Accept your humanness.
Know your value.
Set realistic expectations.
Do your best – in the moment.
Enjoy your progress.
Expect some distractions.
Practice meditation to discipline the mind.
Find the middle way.
So, how do we find the middle way between too focused and too easily distracted?
Here are some tips to improve our focus:
- Safety to confidence. We’ve got to develop a feeling of security so that minor changes in the surrounding patterns are not distracting. We have to have confidence that we are safe enough to dive deeply into a chosen task. The ability to really focus, requires a complimentary feeling of safety. Safe enough to ignore the occasional distractions.
- Build trust in relationships. Trust that others have your back. Believe that those you trust will alert you if something important comes up.
- Take breaks. Rest the mind. Set comfortably in silence. Invest in ear plugs. Close your eyes. Do nothing for 5 minutes.
- Add variety. Give the mind an opportunity to chew on different tasks. Variety keeps the mind alert and stimulated.
- Drink water. Proper hydration seems to improve focus. Also, the occasional bathroom break also gives the mind a break from an intentional focus.
- Move your body. Gently stretch, flex and walk for 5 minutes. This will help with blood flow and improve concentration.
- Sleep. Get suitable sleep each night. A well rested mind will feel safe and secure.
- Eat healthy. Avoid junk food with greasy, heavy trans fats. Avoid those refined sugars that flip your glycemic levels up and down.
- Find something interesting about the task at hand. If you can find something… anything interesting about the task, you will naturally be more focused. Find the challenge. Find the fun. Find the discovery. Find the growth. Find empowerment.
- Seek professional help. If you have trouble focusing – all the time, you may have a more serious issue to deal with. Attention deficit can be assessed by a psychologist or psychiatrist. You may have hormonal imbalances or even brain injuries. Have these checked by your doctor. Deal with your problem by reaching out. Get the help you need.
Hypnotherapy is an excellent way to improve your focus. New strategies can be explored. Rebuilding a feeling of security, safety and confidence is improved with hypnotherapy.
If you would like more information about hypnotherapy, feel free to call our office at 250-869-0881.